Wednesday, October 10, 2012
Tuesday, August 14, 2012
Independence Day Mubarak
Independence Day of Pakistan Mubarak
When I was in SSC, it was the privilege and honor of the college to attend the Flag hosting ceremony in a stadium near Anwar Chowk . A group of our students used to sing National Anthem during the flag hosting ceremony by the Chairman POF Board. This practice was continued for years and years.
I congratulate those students and their parents.They must enjoy those pleasant moments at this time of their lives.
Wednesday, August 8, 2012
From Abdul Hamid Adum
وہ پرندے جو آنکھ رکھتے ہیں : عبد الحمید عدم
وہ پرندے جو آنکھ رکھتے ہیں
سب سے پہلے اسیر ہوتے ہیں
سب سے پہلے اسیر ہوتے ہیں
اے عدم احتیاط لوگوں سے
لوگ منکر نکیر ہوتے ہیں
لوگ منکر نکیر ہوتے ہیں
Thursday, August 2, 2012
<< BEACON - CHARAGH E RAH >>: A MIRROR
<< BEACON - CHARAGH E RAH >>: A MIRROR: A MIRROR Where do we stand in the broader perspective of the global village! Our historic background is full of resources that could ...
A MIRROR
A MIRROR
Where do we stand in the broader perspective of the global
village! Our historic background is full of resources that could support us as
a nation to lead the world. Above all the teaching of the Holly Quran and our
prophet are more than appropriate to have a comfortable life here and
thereafter.
Fortunately we as a nation has been blessed by philosopher
like Allama Mohammad Iqbal, educationist like Sir Syed Ahmad Khan and Quide
Azam Mohammad Ali Jinnah. Pakistan is the net result of their dedication,
determination and honest efforts. They created a team of high caliber people to
achieve their objective.
Since 1947, we are in turmoil in one way or the other. Even then we are moving forward though we could not achieve the desired pace of development.
When I was studying Bachelor of Social Work in New Zealand
as a part of my studies I got the opportunity to go through ‘The hierarchic
theory of Abraham Maslow’. I would like to share the same with my friends. This
is a mirror to see our real image as a nation. I prepared this article during
my studies. At this stage I am unable to give the exact in accordance with APA.
I would apologize for that.
Culture is a way of life developed by a group of individuals or a community
on account of experiences and long interaction with each other. Existence and
expansion of a culture depends upon its diversities and dynamicity. It provides
all necessary basic needs which are required by an individual or a group of
individuals. These needs vary from survival to the self esteem. The hierarchic theory of Abraham Maslow is represented as a pyramid, with the larger, lower levels representing the lower needs, and the upper point representing the need for self-actualization and it reflects culture of a community. It is relevant to the concept of culture. A culture provides an environment where all the needs of the community such as physiological, safety, love and affection, high level of respect and exposure of self talent are met.
Maslow has set up a hierarchy of five levels of basic needs. In the levels of the five basic needs, the person does not feel the second need until the demands of the first have been satisfied. The third level is accepted until the second has been satisfied, and so on. Maslow's basic needs are as follows:
Physiological Needs
These are biological needs. They
consist of needs for oxygen, food, water, clothing and shelter. The culture of
a community is based on the individuals and their existence depends upon their
survival. Food, clothes and houses are the basic needs for the community.
Safety Needs
When all physiological needs are
satisfied and are no longer controlling thoughts and behaviors, the needs for
security can become active. It includes security of jobs, access to the
resources and the benefits. The culture of a group of people provides safety of
life, security to the children, adults and old people.
Needs of Love, Affection and Belongingness
When the needs for safety and for
physiological well-being are satisfied, the next class of needs for love,
affection and belongingness can emerge. Maslow states that people seek to
overcome feelings of loneliness and alienation. This involves both giving and
receiving love, affection and the sense of belonging. Education, respect and
sense of well-being are the important factors of a culture.
Needs for Esteem
When the first three classes of
needs are satisfied, the needs for esteem can become dominant. These involve
needs for self respect and confidence. It is the desire of human being to
receive and to give respect to others. These needs are the prominent dimensions
of a culture.
Needs for Self-Actualization
When all of the four needs are
satisfied, then the needs for self-actualization activated. Maslow describes
self-actualization as a person's need to be and do that which the person was
“born to do”. These needs in a culture are covered by art and literary
activities, games and sports, music and songs.
The hierarchic theory is often represented as a pyramid, with the larger,
lower levels representing the lower needs, and the upper point representing the
need for self-actualization. Maslow
believes that the only reason that people would not move well in direction of
self-actualization is because of hindrances placed in their way by society. He
states that education is one of these hindrances. He recommends ways education
can switch from its usual person-stunting tactics to person-growing approaches.
Maslow states that educators should respond to the potential an individual has
for growing into a self-actualizing person of his/her own kind. Ten points that
educators should address are listed: - We should teach people to be authentic, to be aware of their inner selves and to hear their inner-feeling voices.
- We should teach people to transcend their cultural conditioning and become world citizens.
- We should help people discover their vocation in life, their calling, fate or destiny. This is especially focused on finding the right career and the right mate.
- We should teach people that life is precious, that there is joy to be experienced in life, and if people are open to seeing the good and joyous in all kinds of situations, it makes life worth living.
- We must accept the person as he or she is and help the person learn their inner nature. From real knowledge of aptitudes and limitations we can know what to build upon, what potentials are really there.
- We must see that the person's basic needs are satisfied. This includes safety, belongingness, and esteem needs.
- We should refreshen consciousness, teaching the person to appreciate beauty and the other good things in nature and in living.
- We should teach people that controls are good, and complete abandon is bad. It takes control to improve the quality of life in all areas.
- We should teach people to transcend the trifling problems and grapple with the serious problems in life. These include the problems of injustice, of pain, suffering, and death.
- We must teach people to be good choosers. They must be given practice in making good choices.
Tuesday, July 3, 2012
بانگ د را سے
بانگ د را سے
ضمیرلا لہ میں روشن چراغ آرزو کر د ے
چمن کے ذرے ذرے کو شہید جستجو کر دے
ترے سینے میں ہے پوشیدا راز زندگی کہ دے
مسلمان سے حدیث سو ز و ساز زندگی کہ دے
جب اس انگارہ خاکی میں ہوتا ہے یقین پیدا
تو کر لیتا ہے یہ با ل و پر روح الا میں پیدا
یقین افراد کا سر ما یہ تعمیر ملت ہے
یہی قوت ہے جو صورت گر تقدیر ملت ہے
ترے علم و محبت کی نہیں ہے انتہآ کوئی
نہں ہے تجھ سے بڑھ کرسا ز فطرت میں نوا کوئی
Wednesday, June 27, 2012
Is it a fun or ....
Continuous …
Do you worry? a lot
Everybody
worries about things in their life: friends, family, school etc. But for some people,
these worries become so big that they upset them and make them to do things
they don’t want to do. These worries can
take up so much time that we don’t have the time to do the things we like
doing, such as playing with friends and going out with our families. The
worries in our head can also make us do certain actions to make us feel better,
but the worries keep on coming back and upsetting us.
There
is a name for this and it’s OCD (Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder)
What is OCD?
Everybody
worries something, but OCD can make people worry a lot more than normal. OCD is
like a big bully that pushes you and makes you unhappy. OCD can make people
feel really bad. Some people with OCD feel worried some people feel sad and
some people just feel that things are not right.
Obsessions
OCD has two parts to it – the first part is called “Obsession”, which is another word for your worrying thoughts. That’s because the worrying thoughts just keep on going around in your head and don’t leave people feel you alone, no matter how hard you try to ignore them.
OCD has two parts to it – the first part is called “Obsession”, which is another word for your worrying thoughts. That’s because the worrying thoughts just keep on going around in your head and don’t leave people feel you alone, no matter how hard you try to ignore them.
The
worries can be about lots of different things, such as:
·
Worrying
that your hands are not clean
·
Worrying
about germs
·
Worrying
that you might hurt someone you love
·
Worrying
that you something bad might happen to you
·
Thinking
that you have to count up to a certain number
·
Worrying
that certain numbers are lucky or unlucky
·
Worrying
that everything has to be neat and tidy
·
Worrying
that something bad is going to happen to you or someone you care about, such as
you mum or dad, brother or sister, or a pet
Compulsions
“Compulsions” are actions that OCD makes us think we need to do. We might do them because we want to stop worrying or to feel safer.
“Compulsions” are actions that OCD makes us think we need to do. We might do them because we want to stop worrying or to feel safer.
These
actions can also be lots of different types:
·
Washing
your hands lots of times or in a certain way
·
Counting
or saying things in your head
·
Asking
the same question over and over again
·
Avoiding
certain numbers when counting
·
Tidying
your room lots of times, even though it already looks nice and tidy
·
Avoiding
using scissors or knives
·
Checking
lights switches lots of times
·
Checking
the door is locked
How OCD can make you feel?
It is mean and nasty, and will try to upset you whenever it can. It might stop you going out to birthday parties because it tell you that something bad will happen if you go, or it might make you do badly at school because you are so worried about counting to a certain number or washing your hands again.
OCD
can make you feel anxious and frightened, which means that you might get
butterflies in your tummy or feel bad. Sometimes it can make you want to run
away and hide or cry. OCD makes some people very sad and upset and even
embarrassed; you might feel that no-one understands how you feel.
Why do I have OCD?
No one really knows why some people
get OCD and others don’t. OCD is a medical problem (like asthma or diabetes and
is definitely not your fault.
OCD does not mean that:
·
You
have been naughty
·
Your
Mum and Dad are cross with you
·
You
are mad
·
You
are crazy
·
You
are weak
OCD is very common, it is thought that
1 in 100 people will have OCD, so if you imagine that there are 100 other
children at your school, then at least 1 more will have OCD just like you.
What
should you do?
Remember, OCD means you simply have a
medical illness like asthma or diabetes.
If you have worries like these, then you need to remember that you are not the only one who feels like this, in fact they think that 1 I 100 children will have OCD and really good news is that there are lots of people out there who can help you. It might feel scary telling someone about the worries you have, but it’s really important to let someone know how you’re feeling so that they can help you.
If you have worries like these, then you need to remember that you are not the only one who feels like this, in fact they think that 1 I 100 children will have OCD and really good news is that there are lots of people out there who can help you. It might feel scary telling someone about the worries you have, but it’s really important to let someone know how you’re feeling so that they can help you.
The
people you could talk to include:
·
Your
Mum and Dad
·
A
grandparent
·
A
big brother or sister
·
You
teacher at school
·
Your
school nurse
What
will happen when you tell someone?
When you tell someone =, they will
help you to get help. So your mum or dad will take you to see a doctor and
he/she will explain to you about OCD.
Special
training
You will be given special OCD training
by the doctor to help you get better; this is called CBI (Cognitive Bahaviour
Therapy). If you are finding fighting your OCD very difficult then the doctor
might give you some medicine to help the anxiety become less. This medicine is
to give you a little help, just like you might use an inhaler if you have
asthma.
Here
are a few important things to remember …
·
You’re
not the only kid who will have these kinds of scary thoughts and feelings.
·
OCD
is a big bully
·
You
can get help to stop thinking and feeling the way you do.
·
You
are really not going crazy or mad.
·
OCD
means you have a medical illness like asthma or diabetes.
·
Don’t
be afraid or embarrassed to tell someone.
·
You
can beat OCD.
Reference:
http://www.ocdkids.org/3.htm dated 27/06/2012
Saturday, June 16, 2012
Is it a fun or a serious issue!
Is it a fun or a serious issue!
Ahmad was waiting impetuously to take his turn but Raja was washing his
hands fourth times, did not know how many more times will he take to clean his
hand. This was not for the first time, it was his regular feature.
When Rahim goes out, he has to check just about everything. Did he turn
off all the lights? Did he shut the door properly? Did he forget the television
on? Rahim is very worried that the house maybe broken into or his house might
be on fire and goes back and checks it again. By the time he is done checking
the last thing, he wasn't too sure he checked the first thing.
Amina has another problem. She was always very concern about the toilet.
After using it, she used to clean up the toilet for five or six times every
time.
During the early days of their marriage, Yasmin started to wonder why
her husband Akram was spending so much time in the bathroom. Akram made roughly
10 trips to the bathroom that day and spent on average 5 – 10 minutes each
time; this was nearly every day. Yasmin was curious, so decided to find out
what was happening? One morning while Akram was in the bathroom, she quietly
went up to the door and listened. She heard continuous heavy water running. She
saw Akram’s hands in the wash basin, scrubbing and scrubbing, rinsing the soap
off, then starting again, scrubbing and scrubbing. Later on Yasmin discussed
the matter with Akram. He told her that he felt dirty all the time and could
not do anything without carrying out his rituals. He also accepted that he was
unable to help it.
These are the common example in our everyday life that we come across.
In most of the cases people make it a fun/joke of someone involved in these
types of activities. Before going into its detail, I would love to share the
following story of an individual to point out a very serious issue of our
community.
(This article
appeared in 'The Press' on Sat 6 October 2001, by Susannah Hawtin)
Robyn Corner was twenty-eight years
old. It was a week before her wedding. The alarm went off at 7.00am as usual.
She turned to switch it off, and was immediately overwhelmed by the feeling of
dread that had been her constant companion for the past six months.
She went to the bathroom and washed her hands. She stepped inside the shower and started to wash herself, washing her hands repeatedly between washing different parts of her body. Three quarters of an hour later she emerged, gathered up her nightwear and towel and dumped them in the washing machine. Her hands felt dirty again so she returned to the bathroom to clean them. By now her hands were washed red raw so she rubbed in some moisturizer. They didn’t feel as clean and Robyn felt a strong urge to wash them once more. She looked at her reflection in the mirror and told herself not to be so stupid, that she would be late for work again if she didn’t get a move on. But she couldn’t resist the urge. She quickly washed her hands and hurried into the kitchen, kicking the door open to avoid contact with the germ-ridden doorknob.
After breakfast - and several more hand washes - Robyn systematically went from room to room locking and checking all the doors and windows. Finally she stepped outside the house. By now she was already late for work but thought she’d better go back inside and check everything one more time, just to be sure. When this was done, she got into her car and drove down the street. Before she reached the end of the road she wondered if she had locked the front door properly. Back she went and checked the handle five more times.
Robyn had almost reached her workplace when she was suddenly plagued by the idea that she might have accidentally hit a cyclist. She mentally retraced her steps. She remembered driving past a few cyclists but certainly didn’t notice that she had hit any of them at the time. However, just to be on the safe side, she decided to drive round the block again. It came as no surprise when she didn’t see any injured cyclists lying on the road and she cursed herself for giving into such an irrational idea.
When Robyn finally pulled up outside her place of work she looked at her watch and saw that, yet again, she was unacceptably late. Work started at 8.30am not 10.30am.
Robyn was diagnosed as having Obsessive Compulsive Disorder in 1994. Her diagnosis came as a relief. At least now she knew she wasn’t going crazy and that the behaviour that had inexplicably taken over her life had a name and was treatable. While her family was generally supportive she said the majority of people didn’t understand.
She went to the bathroom and washed her hands. She stepped inside the shower and started to wash herself, washing her hands repeatedly between washing different parts of her body. Three quarters of an hour later she emerged, gathered up her nightwear and towel and dumped them in the washing machine. Her hands felt dirty again so she returned to the bathroom to clean them. By now her hands were washed red raw so she rubbed in some moisturizer. They didn’t feel as clean and Robyn felt a strong urge to wash them once more. She looked at her reflection in the mirror and told herself not to be so stupid, that she would be late for work again if she didn’t get a move on. But she couldn’t resist the urge. She quickly washed her hands and hurried into the kitchen, kicking the door open to avoid contact with the germ-ridden doorknob.
After breakfast - and several more hand washes - Robyn systematically went from room to room locking and checking all the doors and windows. Finally she stepped outside the house. By now she was already late for work but thought she’d better go back inside and check everything one more time, just to be sure. When this was done, she got into her car and drove down the street. Before she reached the end of the road she wondered if she had locked the front door properly. Back she went and checked the handle five more times.
Robyn had almost reached her workplace when she was suddenly plagued by the idea that she might have accidentally hit a cyclist. She mentally retraced her steps. She remembered driving past a few cyclists but certainly didn’t notice that she had hit any of them at the time. However, just to be on the safe side, she decided to drive round the block again. It came as no surprise when she didn’t see any injured cyclists lying on the road and she cursed herself for giving into such an irrational idea.
When Robyn finally pulled up outside her place of work she looked at her watch and saw that, yet again, she was unacceptably late. Work started at 8.30am not 10.30am.
Robyn was diagnosed as having Obsessive Compulsive Disorder in 1994. Her diagnosis came as a relief. At least now she knew she wasn’t going crazy and that the behaviour that had inexplicably taken over her life had a name and was treatable. While her family was generally supportive she said the majority of people didn’t understand.
I would continue
this discussion in my next article.
Saturday, June 9, 2012
Intellegence Quiz
George W. Bush’s
Intelligence Quiz
While visiting England, George W. Bush
is invited to tea with the Queen. He asks her what her leadership philosophy
is. She says that it is to surround herself with intelligent people. He asks
how she knows if they’re intelligent.
“I do so by asking them the right
questions,” says the Queen. “Allow me to demonstrate.”
She phones Tony Blair and says, “Mr.
Prime Minister. Please answer this question: Your mother has a child, and your
father has a child, and this child is not your brother or sister. Who is it?”
Tony Blair responds, “It’s me, ma’am.”
“Correct. Thank you and good-bye,
sir,” says the Queen. She hangs up and says, “Did you get that, Mr. Bush?”
“Yes ma’am. Thanks a lot. I’ll
definitely be using that!”
Upon returning to Washington, he
decides he’d better put the Chairman of the Senate Foreign Relations Committee
to the test. He summons Jesse Helms to the White House and says, “Senator
Helms, I wonder if you can answer a question for me.”
“Why, of course, sir. What’s on your
mind?”
“Uh, your mother has a child, and your
father has a child, and this child is not your brother or your sister. Who is
it?”
Helms hems and haws and finally asks,
“Can I think about it and get back to you?” Bush agrees, and Helms leaves. He
immediately calls a meeting of other senior senators, and they puzzle over the
question for several hours, but nobody can come up with an answer. Finally, in
desperation, Helms calls Colin Powell at the State Department and explains his
problem.
“Now look here Colin Powell, your
mother has a child, and your father has a child, and this child is not your
brother, or your sister. Who is it?” Powell answers immediately, “It’s me, of
course, you dumb ass.”
Much relieved, Helms rushes back to
the White House and exclaims, “I know the answer, sir! I know who it is! It’s
Colin Powell!” And Bush replies in disgust, “Wrong, you dumb ass, It’s Tony
Blair!”
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